Still here. Still trying to sit with (or curl up under a duvet with) major FBS.
Finding it impossible to sift re-active feelings about a situation - disappointment, anger, sulking, panic, rejection ... from the more rational ones about patterns of other people's behaviour and long term plans.
Trying to separate my frustrations about lack of solutions with one intractable problem from my feelings about this particular problem, which may also be intractable, but may just appear that way because sometimes it's easier to assume that there is nothing to do but give up.
I am damned (or blessed) with the personality of an insecure optimist. I desperately want to hope, but also carry huge amounts of fear about the what-ifs. My ex was a secure pessimist. Always assumed the worst, but didn't really fear at all.
I find it particularly difficult to sit with unresolved anger. It's only recently that I've even been able to recognise that that is what this feeling is ... so I guess that is progress!
Stray, I hope you're able to uncurl soon. I sympathize with the challenge of sitting with unresolved anger. I tell myself that my feelings won't kill me, they're just feelings and they will fade. It's still hard.
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Still here. Still trying to sit with (or curl up under a duvet with) major FBS.
Finding it impossible to sift re-active feelings about a situation - disappointment, anger, sulking, panic, rejection ... from the more rational ones about patterns of other people's behaviour and long term plans.
Trying to separate my frustrations about lack of solutions with one intractable problem from my feelings about this particular problem, which may also be intractable, but may just appear that way because sometimes it's easier to assume that there is nothing to do but give up.
I am damned (or blessed) with the personality of an insecure optimist. I desperately want to hope, but also carry huge amounts of fear about the what-ifs. My ex was a secure pessimist. Always assumed the worst, but didn't really fear at all.
I find it particularly difficult to sit with unresolved anger. It's only recently that I've even been able to recognise that that is what this feeling is ... so I guess that is progress!
(((stray)))
Stray, I hope you're able to uncurl soon. I sympathize with the challenge of sitting with unresolved anger. I tell myself that my feelings won't kill me, they're just feelings and they will fade. It's still hard.
(((((stray)))))))) big hug from the chateau.
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